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Why Nobody Wants to Be Your Client, Friend or Spouse

silhouette of man with head down alone on a small pier Here’s my secret confession: For most of my life, I felt completely outcast and not wanted by just about everyone. I simply did not feel as if I knew how to fit in – and that felt nearly debilitating.

You might be surprised to hear that about me because I probably seem totally different now. And, I am.

Today, so many people want to work with me, work for me, date me… even my teenage kids like me!

This radical shift has brought about incredible benefits externally, but most importantly it’s changed the way I feel about myself internally. 

I actually really, really, really like myself.

This was not always the case. And it made life quite painful.

Can you relate? My guess is that you might be able to because I think it’s something a lot of lawyers face.

The unfortunate reality with many attorneys and the field of law, in general, is that we have a reputation (and maybe even a reality) of not being relatable.

There’s something about law school that seems to strip us of some part of our humanity, at least to the outside world.

Have you ever felt as if people might be a little scared of you? If so, you are probably right because most people are scared of lawyers.

But the reality of who you are is quite different, isn’t it?

You’re a person, you’ve got character, a family, friends, relatives, wisdom, and humor to share. But through the process of becoming a lawyer, you’ve been trained to not be yourself and it’s causing others to not feel connected to you.

On Episode 6 of the Ultimate Attorney podcast, my co-host Draye and I dive into the shifts that you can make to embrace your humanity, truly connect with yourself and those around you, and become a person that people want to be around. 

When this happens, people want to be your client, your child, your spouse, your friend. And it’s so rewarding.

a person's hand holding a sign with a big question mark up in front of their face. Copy reads "Why nobody wants to be your client, kid, spouse or friend - The Ultimate Attorney PodcastListen in as we dive into the identity crisis that’s happening for lawyers and explore:

  • Why lawyers have a hard time connecting with their clients, and how to fix this
  • How to identify if you are an interrogator or an analyzer, and what that means for connection
  • Actions you can take in your life to change how people view you
  • The correlation between connection and less stress

I hope you enjoy this episode! You can also catch up on all other episodes here.

To a life and law practice you love,

About the Contributor
Alexis Neely is a bestselling author and has been a frequent guest on numerous network talk shows and news broadcasts. After graduating first in her law school class from Georgetown Law, Alexis clerked for Senior Judge Peter T. Fay on the 11th Circuit Court of Appeals and then began her career at the #1 AmLaw rated firm of Munger, Tolles & Olson. She went on to build her own law practice into a million dollar a year revenue generator within just three years by creating a revolutionary New Law Business Model you’ll hear about on the call. She is a leading expert on teaching lawyers how to attract more clients, engage those clients at higher fees,* and to serve those clients using this completely different law business model. Lawyers using Alexis’ systems report far more happiness, bigger bank accounts, and that they love being lawyers again.

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